Most of us have at least an idea of what our perfect life would look like. The problem is, due to fear of the unknown and no shortage of “Nay-Sayers”, many times following your dreams ends up being only a fantasy.
I don’t believe it has to be that way. I finally followed mine and am living one of my dreams.
The key is understanding that magic potions to get us there instantly are the stuff of fairy tales and while achieving your dreams can be possible, you’ll need to be prepared.
I’ve listed seven points of consideration that I believe will go a long way in getting you there.
They work for me.
Seven Things To Remember When Chasing Your Dreams
This week’s Positive Review: Starbucks Double Shot
Life's too short to spend it in mediocrity. The theme of episode 45 is excellence.
In everything you do and everything you are, Be Excellent.
This week's Positive Review: The CLOSE 5 app
Everyone has bad days when everything just seems to go wrong all at once. Sometimes bad news follows more bad news, followed by more bad news.
How do you change, or at least lessen, the negative vibes and bad mojo you’re feeling?
The truth is, many times it just has to pass. The sun has to dawn a new day. But there are some steps you can take to try and add a little silver lining to the gloom.
The first step is always recognizing that it’s just a bad day and it WILL pass.
Get your head around the fact that this is not the norm and tomorrow can be better. (By the way, if it IS the norm, take my advice and see a professional about it. There may be a clinical issue that can be resolved and change your life for the better.)
So what can you do while you wait for the next sunrise and all the loveliness it shall bring?
You need to get your mind off the negative stuff. Thinking about the negative stuff only makes it worse.
Talk to someone about it. A spouse, a close friend or relative who is a good listener is a huge help when you’re feeling “BLAH”. I emphasize that it needs to be someone who is a Good Listener. Get it off your chest and out into the air where all the negative Ju-Ju can dissipate.
Take the rest of the day off and do something you like, if possible. I run my own company and have that option. Two or three times in the last ten years, I’ve found it necessary to call it a day early and goof off because the day is just sucking and I Can. I often go see a movie when I’m out of town and away from the family because I get lonely and I know that sitting in a dark theatre with a good story, a HUGE bucket of butter-slathered popcorn, and a soda the size of a water tower will help me take my mind off the boring hotel room.
Listen to a positive podcast. There are tons of great podcasts that are geared not only to lift you up, but there are so many to choose from that you can really fine tune them to your particular interests.
Write someone an inspiring letter. I have found that when I am really down, I can sit and write an encouraging letter to someone I know who is have a difficult time. I tell them how I’m thinking and praying for them, how I am always there for them and how I am sure things are going to get better. Before you know it, you’ve not only created some correspondence that may meet a great need in someone’s life, but you’ve lifted your own self up through your encouraging words.
If it fits your life, pray. As a Christian, one of the most rewarding things I can do is spend personal time with God. I can read my bible and feel better, but especially when I pray, I find my spirit healing and many times moving from a mood of sorrow to a mood of rejoicing.
Read a good book. Again, you’re taking yourself out of the world around you that stinks and into a fantasy world where you can witness amazing and wonderful things. Even if it’s not necessarily an uplifting tale, at least it’s somebody else’s problems and yours are tucked neatly away for a time in the back of your mind.
Take a nap. You might just need a good rest.
The point is to take yourself out of the stuff that’s got you down. I’m not telling you to ignore your problems, but problems are something we all have and you can face them much better with a positive outlook.
This week’s positive review: The literary works of Nicholas Sparks
There's nothing easy about divorce. I should know - I was a child of divorce. And even though my parents treated me and my sister right and saw to it that the process did as little damage as possible, there are still scars.
Here I will tell you my story as I remember it and I'll give you some do's and don'ts in case divorce is unavoidable. And I'll do it from the perspective of a child.
Here are some DOs and DON’Ts:
See if there is a way to fix whatever went wrong in your marriage. Don’t just give up.
Seek the love that got you to the altar
Communicate honestly and without arguing or being defensive
Consider those around you who WILL be affected
Make it amiable
Take the High Road
Be positive about the other parent in front of children
Give attention to children during this very difficult time
Don’t “Poor mouth” the other parent in front of children
Don’t take the Low Road
Don’t let children think they are responsible (a common issue of divorce)
Don’t deny access to the children from the other parent (unless it is for their safety)
Don’t argue in front of children
Don’t refuse to provide child support
Don’t divorce the kids just because you’re divorcing the other parent
Keep these things in mind when children are involved.
Children need the following:
A FIRM FOUNDATION
TO FEEL SAFE
A POSITIVE ENVIRONMENT
LOVE AND ATTENTION
A STABLE HOME
This week's positive review: Chip Ingram's ministry, Living On the Edge at LOTE.org